SPC: I Want It All

💬 The Intentional Drop: From me to you

I was listening to a podcast this week when I heard a quote that stuck with me: “women can have it all, just not all at once.”

I’m a woman who wants it all. I want the fairytale romance and perfect marital bliss. I want a successful and fulfilling career where I feel like a corporate baddie. I want to be the perfect mom, with the perfect life and I want all of those things to feel effortless.

This week I went somewhat viral when I shared how I got laid off for requesting maternity leave. I’ve had a month to reflect since that dreaded day and I have to say that experience left me feeling a deep sense of identity loss. I wanted so bad to be the girl who had an incredible career and was an amazing mom, I wanted it all. But over the last few weeks I’ve come to appreciate slowing down and enjoying the different seasons of life. This is very much the season where I become a mom, where I focus on myself and my baby, where I don’t have to apologize for prioritizing my self care. I’m slowly but surely embracing this change while reminding myself that I can have it all and prioritize what matters now while trusting that the rest will come in its time.

Your soft power move this week? Let go of the rush. Redefine what “having it all” looks like for you, right now. Remember your path is not a checklist, it’s a mosaic.

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• I’ve gotten back into reading recently and picked up The Power Pause this week. The author, Neha Ruch defines a power pause as a phase of life in which a mother deliberately shifts her time, focus, and energy away from her career toward her children and household and the book teaches you how to plan a career break but also rejoin the workforce stronger than ever. As someone who’s slightly terrified of falling behind in my career I’m turning to every resource to better understand how women before me have done it.
• I’ve been struggling with my body recently; being 9 months pregnant in the August heat has not been easy. I’ve been so tempted to buy a bunch of new clothes to feel more confident in this new body but instead I’ve decided to slow things down. I want to curate my perfect wardrobe but I don’t think it needs to happen at 9 months pregnant. Instead, I’ve downloaded Locker, a browser extension that allows me to save any link from any site. Anytime I see something I’m tempted to add to cart, I add it to my Locker instead and once I’m ready, I’ll start making intentional wardrobe purchases. Here’s what’s on my list to buy postpartum in case you’re curious.

💌 From the Clubhouse: What the girlies are saying

“I hate that we're always glorifying burnout and I'm so glad you don't promote burnout. Sometimes I just need a break...”
– Amina Aliza on Tiktok

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